The one thing that separates those of us who feel a strong sense of belonging and connection from those of us who don’t is the ability to be authentic, to stop pretending, to accept uncertainty, and to allow ourselves to be deeply seen — with all our imperfections.
This is the conclusion reached by Brene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, who has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
In a poignant, wise and funny talk at TEDxHouston, Brown claims that people who are willing to acknowledge their imperfections and inadequacies are more successful in living joyful lives. People who practice gratitude and are able to let go of who they THINK they should be, and instead become truly authentic, are also able to practice that same compassion towards others. When we numb our vulnerability, we also numb joy, gratitude and happiness.
If you have a free quarter of an hour, I highly recommend listening to to this inspiring talk.