Dec 04 / Simcha

Rethinking Foreplay

sexHuman sexuality is complex, and the nature of intimate partners’ circumstances and interactions is varied and complicated.  That said, at the risk of oversimplifying all of the above, I share with you a simple, but wise, quotation that rethinks…. foreplay.


As arousal and physical readiness for sex emanate from the brain, the way we speak, gesture, communicate, repair disharmony, and show appreciation on a day-in and day-out basis, very much influence our desire for sexual expression in the bedroom.

Think of the time between sexual activities as part of foreplay.  Focus on what you value and find attractive (even sexy) in your partner and show appreciation for those things as frequently as possible.  (And stretch  yourself to use as many of the Five Love Languages as possible.)