Dec 19 / Simcha

Feeding the Emotional Bank Account

From marriage researcher Dr. John Gottman’s experience working with thousands of couples, he determined that a long-term reationship is likely to be successful if, very simply, there are more good moments than bad moments.  (He speaks of a ratio of at least 5 positive to 1 negative interactions as a predictor of a satisfying relationship.)  Where the “emotional bank account” has been fed with a multitude of generous acts, kind words and thoughtful behaviors, negative interactions are more likely to be dealt with with greater equanimity or let slide.

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