Oct 30 / Simcha

Don’t Ask Me Where I’m From (T. Selasi)

When someone asks you where you are from … do you sometimes not know how to answer? Writer Taiye Selasi speaks on behalf of “multi-local” people, who feel at home in the town where they grew up, the city they live now and maybe another place or two. “How can I come from a country?” she asks. “How can a human being come from a concept?”

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Jun 04 / Simcha

Reshape your Story, Reshape your Relationship (M. Kauppi)

Many of us have had the experience of saying something we thought was innocuous, only to have a friend or partner interpret it as a veiled accusation or an attempted guilt-trip. Or the reverse — an innocent comment by the other is perceived as a slight or criticism. Each party experiences and interprets the same situation in very different ways.

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Dec 04 / Simcha

Guidelines for Divorcing Parents of Children

The intense emotional impact of divorce often leaves parents filled with anger, hurt and the fear of losing connection with one’s children; in the battle that ensues, the children can become the pawns, suffering trauma that is greater than the breakup itself.

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Apr 08 / Simcha

When a Loved One Commits Suicide (Resources)

Tragically, several of my clients have had to confront the suicide of a loved one, or find themselves in the position of wanting to support someone who has experienced such a loss. The following list of resources focuses on supporting adolescents and young adults, but is relevant for a wider population as well.

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Mar 17 / Simcha

Teach People How to Treat You

To a large degree (although not across the board or in every circumstance), we have much greater power to control how people treat us than we are aware. Often from fear of appearing selfish, unkind, or losing connection, we allow ourselves to be disrespected, and in so doing, start to lose pieces of ourselves.

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Dec 07 / Simcha

It All Matters (L. McBride)

In her heart-wrenching novel narrated in four distinct voicesLaura McBride looks at the humanness behind, and the significance of, our every action.  And she suggests that it all really does matter.   

The book’s title — We Are Called to Rise is drawn from the quote by poet Emily Dickenson:  “We never know how high we are, Till we are called to rise; And then, if we are true to plan, Our statures touch the skies.”  The following two eloquent quotes capture the book’s essence.

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Sep 24 / Simcha

How to Handle Toxic People  (K. Schreiber)

Many of us have been challenged by toxic people in our lives who spew negativity, leaving us feeling somehow demeaned and deflated.  From the Latin word toxikon, meaning “arrow poison,” the term toxic means literally: to fill or poison in a targeted way, says Theo Veldsman, head of Industrial Psychology and People Management at the University of Johannesburg.

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Aug 04 / Simcha

Understanding Addiction (G. Maté)

Unlike other treatment professionals, Canadian physician and social critic Gabor Maté disagrees with the current biomedical, genetic model of addiction. He insists that addictive patterns of behavior are rooted in the alienation and emotional suffering that are inseparable from Western capitalist cultures, which (by favoring striving and acquiring over noticing and caring for one another), end up shortchanging — and too often traumatizing — children and families.

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